The Ladder Theory
14 09 2009September 12, Saturday – had my internship review at the University of Asia and the Pacific.
After a brain-draining interview, I waited for my friend who is one of the panelists to finish the last interviewee.
I am sitting with the other officers of AISEC when all of a sudden g(a/u)y who is also an officer started writing on the board. He titled his discussion “THE LADDER THEORY.”
At first, I am hesitant to listen but as he continously speaks about it, I found myself intently listening to him.
Just like a professor, he started his deliberation on how the ladder theory works and what is it all about.
He defined it as “a scientific explanation of how two people (can be the same or two different sexes) are attracted to each other upon first impressions, and it works on our unconscious mind.
The Ladder Theory is based upon on many years of sociological field testing, and was first conceptualized in 1994 in Exeter, CA by Dallas Lynn with acknowledgements to Jared Whitson for his role in formalizing the theory.
This theory aims to determine your potential future mate.
It states that “Every time you meet someone you give them a quick mental rating, thus placing them in a YOUR ladder.
We, women have always two ladders, the real ladder and the ladder for friends. And in-between these two ladders is the ABYSS wherein if this certain guy from the friend ladder made his jump to be able to be included in the woman’s real ladder, he might fall into that gap(depending on your placing at the ladder) whom the girl considers no future at all.
While the men has only one ladder (real only), which explains that if men befriended you, they just don’t mean friendship but a higher level of relationship between the two of you.
“IF A MAN FINDS YOU ATTRACTIVE YOU CANNOT BE FRIENDS.”
And placing persons on our ladder depends on these factors: (remember, this theory works on our unconscious mind, but somehow, i think that really works for me. I believe that girls always think of getting to the future securely that means the guy is financially stable.)
for men-
60% looks
30% estimated chance the other person will put out quickly
10% other factors
for women-
50% money/power or influence
40% attraction
(which is divided into sub categories:
50% physical attraction
20% competition
20% novelty
10% others)
10% things women say they care but do not (includes intelligence, sense of humor, honesty, sensitivity, emotional stability, etc.)
The theory also reminds men on women’s use of code words. Take for example, She says, “I want a man who is motivated and has goals.” This means that she only wants a rich man.
Many women want to argue this point and say things like ” I have lots of guy friends.” Maybe. There are exactly 3 cases Intellectual Whores has identified whereby a guy and a girl can be friends:
1. The guy is gay
2. The guy does not find you attractive
3. The guy already has a woman much higher than you on the ladder
Toward A Meaning of Life
Convieniently, the ladder theory answers the oft asked question, “What is the purpose of life?” The purpose of life is to move up the ladder. The person you are with now should be better (higher on your ladder) than the person you were last with. Okay it’s not perfect but if you have no direction in life, trying to fuck hotter and hotter chicks or richer and richer guys is as good a place as any to start. In addition to giving a good base toward a meaning of life there are a few other things that ladder theory explains.
Remember
…this only works if you are honest with yourself. Number one is of course something that guys hear all the time. Intellectual Whores refers to it as the Kiss of Death. It is more likely that he will jump you eagerly.
You can read more about it here.
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I can’t comment on your blog.. why?
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ayan nakacomment kana!
ahahaha…
hmmm. bukas na ko magco2mment ng matino dito sa post mo
very interesting huh..
Nice theory… i get the part where there are 2 ladders and guys attempting to jump from one to the other and may end up falling into the ABYSS. so funny… not only because i understand it but because i also imagine guys trying to do that. lmao but in the end… it is a theory… theories have SOME truth in them but only some… otherwise they will be known as facts…
nice post…
@shea
ok, cge!
@timangkey
ya right..it still has its flaws…
oi bagong post..bukas na ko kokoment ah..bsta mag open kau ni shea ng mail nio about dun s kite awards ah..heksayted nako..
^,^
girl talk?
so parang sinabi na rin na ang umaandar lagi sa utak ng lalaki ay lib**.
so tama rin ang sabi sabi na basta bihisan mo ng damit pangbabae ang poste may papatol dito na lalaki.
ciguro tama na yung lader pero tingin ko lalo na according sa pagtingin ko sa mga kapatid ko sa mga naging gf nila nagdadagdag ng qualities sa mga nagiging gf nila pero may isang characteristic na consistent sa mga yun.
siguro ang babae kaya ganito magisip lalo na dito sa pilipinas na kaylangan ng security sa buhay dahil tanggapin natin na lalaki talaga ng provider ng family. kaya kaylangan ay mayaman
yun lang
this is very interesting. this is one of those times when mating is associated with statistics and scientific explanations LOL
this is interesting… makes a lot of sense… hehehe…
interesting theory…kaya siguro ang mga men less complicated than women…
straightforward…no coding communication, etc…hehehehe…hirap siguro maging babae? asking lang po!
@free
cge, open ko maya..hehe
@ax
hindi naman..
@bluguy
hehehe..but some of the guys or shall i say mostly do not actually so conversative that’s why it is also hard for us gals.
medyo may kahirapan but im lovin it!
@jun-g
thanks!
@pm
korek!
@juliet
haha..may tama ka!
I think this is true! Pero since theory rin sya this might not be true to others! i learned something new again sa blog mo.
hmmm..kakabasa ko lng…individual differences din cguro xa, kc kung tama or accurate to, malamang LAW na to buti theory pa lng.. ^,^
That’s very informative.. Parang I heard this in my philosophy subject back in 2nd yr. College, i just don’t kn0w exaCTLy what is it.
@dorm boy
ya..that’s why its not yet a law…
remember, it works on our unconscious mind
@free
ya..it is specified that’s its only a theory..
@jen
wow, galing naman!
wow, interesting! i guess i have to agree dun sa guys.
Astig, this is the first time I heard about this theory, and it’s effin cool!
@badong
ya..now i know..hawhaw
@joycee
ya right!
ngayon ko lang narinig tong ladder theory but i must admit, it’s really interesting.
thanks for sharing this to us..click ko muna yung read more..salamat ulit.
sige, sige..salamat din!
natawa ako dito:
30% estimated chance the other person will put out quickly
wahaha!
ps: joyce nasa blogroll kaya kita. walang “the” lady in green ruffles ang nakalagay kaya di mo nakita. *toinks*
@dj
hehe..do you agree?
hehe ulit..di ko nga po napansin..pero i also looked for joyce but i found nothing..
whoah…i protest! it’s a poor generalization that has no true statistical basis. it all depends on the upbringing, the environment, and the nature of the person. the ladder theory is no different than other intriguing “theories”…most notably many of sigmund freud’s. there are some useful findings i bet, but it’s unfortunate that these kind of silliness sell books.
hoy….values ng tao type ko noh.
Sa mga lalakeng tulad ko, ito ang maipapayo ko. Ngayong alam nyo na na may dalawang hagdanan ang mga babae at nataong niluklok ka nya sa hagdanan ng mga ‘kaibigan lang’ nya, huwag na huwag kang tatalon sa totoong hagdanan nya dahil mataas ang tyansang mahuhulog ka sa kalaliman. Bagkus, matoto kang gumawa ng tulay na nag-uugnay sa dalawang hagdanan ng babae, para tiyak na hindi ka mahuhulog sa paglipat mo ng hagdanan.
meaningful theory ito.:)
WOW. i learned a lot from this.
thanks ate for sharing!
waaa. this is so informative joyce. thanks for sharing. great post. napaisip tuloy ako. 3 of my bestfriends are guys. i still yet to find out if they are gays (lol) and if they find me attractive. i don;t think they have women higher than me in the ladder though. waaaa.
@mr. nonsense
relak sir! its just a theory..thats why its not a law cause it does not apply to all..but it was proven many times..maybe you’re the exeption to that rule..
@cons
wow, ayos!
@ever
tama ba? hehe
@poot
you are always welcome
@ate ressie
hehe..at least i gave you an idea..haha..
wow oo nga hano…
salamat sa info… di ko aakalaing ganun… hehe
nice post. ive learned something about this theory, the fact that i just learned it just now from you, eh i agree with it.
astig! sige po tulog na ako. pakabait ha! ahehhe
hehe…just not a big fan of so-called researches that generalize and divide.
relax lang akow.
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hhhmmm.. interesting yung post..
pero hindi ako maka-comment.. kasi napa-isip ako ng madami..
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.hanggang ngayon nag iisip ako..hahahah
ay ganun pala yun. hehe
teka..mamya ko na ituloy basahin.
buti na lang theory lang na mukhang pera ang mga babae at ung mga lalaki naman tumitingin sa ganda ng babae
sana nga hangang theory lang yun @_@
my sense of humor ako un lang ung maipagmamalaki ko kso ‘ndi pala gaanong gusto ng mga babae un @_@
pero i agree parin (Konti) sa mga sinabi d2 un lng
bb
nice post
i find this post really interesting thanks sis! and agree aq sa punto mo kung ano ang gusto ni babae na lalake sa buhay niya
aloha! ^,^
wow ate..sosyal..
seryosong usapan pala ito between guy and a girl’s ladder..nosebleed..$,$
dumadaan!
Wow, i find that theory very interesting.parang related sya sa first impression last.
hehehehehe very interesting theory…
parang women are from venus, men are from mars…
Being one woman man.
I should stick on this one rather than being afraid of sexual harassment.
hi! pssst…nanalo ka sa pakontes ni kuya bernardumali! congrats! hooooot hoooot! ^,^
pa saranggola ka nmn! saranggola saranggola saranggola! (tongue twister?)
hehehe…!!!
congrats for your won on Kuya Bernard’s contest.
BUKAS NA KO MAGPOPOST ANG ADIK NI TC PARANG TANGA LANG.
DI NA NAKAKATUWA
hi joyce,
may natutunan na naman ako sayo. galing2x talaga. =)
dumaan, tumambay at sumilip kung may bago na ngunit wala pa. :p
I agree with your point of view and I feel very attracted to it.
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